2008 - Finding gratitude within the angst
- Whether you believe the times are bad or good - you are
- Finding opportunities in challenging times
- How to deal with a layoff
- Energy flows where attention goes
- Tips for dealing with stressful times
- Resources (links, books, articles, the
2008 - Finding gratitude within the angst
If you focus your energy on what is bad, you will tend to see and hear bad
news. If you focus your energy on what is good, you will tend to see and
hear good news.
No matter what is happening in the world today, the news media tends to
ferret out the worst possible news and make it seem as if the sky is falling all
around us. And, if it's not falling, then they tend to predict that it
will fall at any moment. One of the goals of the news media is to sell
newspaper, sell television time, sell products, etc. so one of their goals is to
get people's attention. They also have the responsibility to deliver news
in an impartial way. That impartiality occasionally seems to be overridden
by the need to make enough money to stay in business.
are some people being laid off and some stores are not making as much money as
they want to. Yes, indeed, there are some unhappy people in the world and
there are some who are going hungry or doing without this holiday seasons.
Our heart goes out to them and we do what we can for those who need help.
the same time, we do not focus our energy or our attention on what is missing ó
we focus on the wonderful blessings all around us.
The current economic situation can be a great blessing and a time for
re-thinking our priorities, focusing our attention on what is truly important ó
the people we care about - not on the commercialization of the season as it has
been in the past.
With many people deciding to watch their budgets more
closely, this gives us a great opportunity to do things differently this year in
For a business or a large company, perhaps we might see more
individual creativity in making decorations or in helping others in the
community instead of spending money on a lavish party. Or, we might see
people giving more of their time instead of their money in some
Perhaps with budget and hiring freezes in place, we might
see more people getting together to find creative new ways to do the work more
efficiently instead of worrying about being overworked. We might see
companies figuring out that they have been wasteful and are making better use of
their resources now that income is a bit slower to come in. State and
local governments are also feeling the pinch of the economy and are doing a
better job of budgeting for the most important things.
All of these are good things and provide many hidden blessings for
everyone. Some companies are cutting back hours instead of cutting jobs so
that most or all of the employees stay working rather than laying off
people. That is a creative solution that has worked for many when the
economy slows down.
Business ups and downs are a regular cycle. Recessions come and
go. The end of the world is probably not imminent so instead of doom and
gloom, do everything you can to see where the opportunities are within whatever
situation you find yourself.
If you do happen to find yourself laid off, look for a group that you can
connect with to help provide emotional support as well as updating your
job-seeking skills. In California, there are a number of free groups such
Unlimited supported by the state government. Check to see whether
there are similar groups in your area. If not, why not start one?
For those who are hiring, such groups provide you with a source for talented
individuals who are seeking work.
Another good source of information are the articles on our website for job
seekers and for employers who are hiring.
Many people find that a layoff may lead them to a different career choice or
give them some time to think about what they really want to do. It can be
a very rewarding self-growth experience leading to many new opportunities that
were never considered before.
If you have worked before, you will most likely work again. Don't give
No matter how "bad" the economy is, there are always
companies that are growing, there are always companies starting up and
companies that are hiring.
Your job is to be ready for the opportunity when it presents itself by making
sure you are the best possible candidate for whatever position might be
available. That means keeping up your interviewing skills, dusting off
skills that may be rusty, being as presentable as possible when you
interview, having the most positive attitude you can manage and keeping at the
job search until you find the best possible job you can.
No matter where you find yourself, if you can focus the most attention on
being grateful for what you do have, instead of focusing on what you don't have,
you will see more positive things. Where you focus your attention means
that your energy will flow that way. This is a fact of nature. What
you focus on expands. So, if you focus on positive things, your positive
experience will expand. If you focus on negativity, your negative
experience will expand. It's a conscious choice to make every single
- Wake up every morning and find positive ways to get yourself
energized. If you have family or good friends, place pictures of your
favorite people where you can see them every day and feel the good feelings
that generates. Be grateful for their health and well-being. Be
grateful that they are in your life.
- Be grateful for where ever you find yourself at this stage of your
life. This is especially important if you find yourself somewhere you
didn't want to be. Again this is a conscious choice. Seeing the
situation as positive can help to transform it and in the doing, help to
transform your life as well. Think back to other difficult or
challenging times you've had and see how they turned out. Did a
situation seem to be difficult at first and then something wonderful
happened or some new person came into your life or some other blessing
occurred? The same result will happen in your current situation.
Eventually, you will get through it and be able to see the
blessings. Knowing that helps people to cope better with the
- Reach out to others who are less fortunate. Participate in a holiday
gift-giving program. Even if you don't have extra money to give, you can
give of your time and your talent. The benefits in feeling better are
amazing and will last beyond the current holiday season.
- Let your friends and family know when you need help. Ask for
referrals and other contacts who can help you. If others you know
are feeling stressed, maybe join or start up a small support group where you
can talk out your feelings and get emotional support.
- Plan your budget or your schedule to get the most value for what resources
you have available ó whether money, time or energy.
- Avoid reading or listening to the mainstream news as much as
possible. Find a positive book to read instead or listen to your
favorite music or talk with people you care about or do something physical
like walking or cleaning.
- Instead of buying expensive gifts, give a gift of yourself - make
something if you are creative or simply offer to do something for someone
else. If you have children, maybe give them the gift of a trip to a
local park instead of toys that will be soon forgotten. Help them to
understand the value of personal gifts over commercial gifts. Let your
mind wander to what you enjoyed most as a child at the holiday season.
Was it really the toys or was it the experience of being with your
- During stressful times, stay as healthy as possible. Get plenty of
rest and drink plenty of water. Do regular exercise of some
kind. The body releases endorphins when we exercise, which help us to
feel better. Exercise helps our body to stay healthy.
- Income Without a Job: Living Well Without a Paycheck. Michael
Jay Anthony, Barbara J. Taylor. Lulu.com,
September 2008 ISBN-13:
- You'll See It When You Believe It!, Wayne Dyer. Quill; (September 2001)
(with 50 million books in print, Wayne Dyer knows how changing his thinking
profoundly changed his own life and the lives of millions of others who follow his work)
- Zapp: The Lightning of Empowerment: How to Improve Productivity,
Quality, and Employee Satisfaction, William Byham, Jeff Cox.
Fawcett Books; Revised edition (February 1998) ISBN: 0449002829
- Thanks!: How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make
You Happier. Robert Emmons. Houghton Mifflin,
0618620192 ISBN-13: 978-0618620197
- Attitudes of Gratitude: How to Give and Receive
Joy Everyday of Your Life. M. J. Ryan. Conari Press,
1573241490 ISBN-13: 978-1573241496
- Words of Gratitude for Mind, Body, and Soul.
Robert A. Emmons and Joanna Hill. Templeton Foundation Press,
1567318533 ISBN-13: 978-1890151553
- Gratitude: A Way of Life. Louise
L. Hay. Hay House, 1996. ISBN-10:
1561703095 ISBN-13: 978-1561703098
- The Most Thankful Thing. Lisa
Mccourt and Cyd Moore. Cartwheel, 2004. ISBN-10:
0439650836 ISBN-13: 978-0439650830
- The Secret Gratitude Book. Rhonda
Byrne. Atria Books, 2007. ISBN-10:
158270208X ISBN-13: 978-1582702087
- Radical Gratitude: Discovering Joy through
Everyday Thankfulness. Ellen Vaughn. Zondervan, 2005.
0310257492 ISBN-13: 978-0310257493
- Count Your Blessings: The Healing Power of
Gratitude and Love. John F. Demartini. Hay House, 2006.
1401910742 ISBN-13: 978-1401910747
- The Power of Infinite Love & Gratitude: An
Evolutionary Journey to Awakening Your Spirit. Darren R.
Weissman. Hay House, 2007. ISBN-10:
1401917178 ISBN-13: 978-1401917173
Related newsletter article:
2007 - True Community: Focusing on What's Important
February 2007 - Visioning for the Future
September 2006 - The Power of Thought
June 2006 - Networking for Fun and Profit
August 2004 - Finding a Job: 21st Century Style
March 2001 - Finding the Right Job for You
February 2001 - Hiring the Right People
Also, most of our December articles are devoted to fun in the
workplace. See the Newsletter list.
- At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another
person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who
have lighted the flame within us.
... Albert Schweitzer http://www.wisdomquotes.com/cat_gratitude.html
- If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, "thank you,"
that would suffice.
... Meister Eckhart http://www.quotegarden.com/gratitude.html
- For each new morning with its light, For rest and shelter of the night,
For health and food, for love and friends, For everything Thy goodness
... Ralph Waldo Emerson http://www.abundance-and-happiness.com/gratitude-quotes.html
- Learn everything you can, anytime you can, from
anyone you can - there will always come a time when you will be grateful you
... Sarah Caldwell http://thinkexist.com/quotations/gratitude/
- Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a
lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't learn a little, at
least we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so,
let us all be thankful.
... Buddha http://www.inspirationalquotes4u.com/gratitudequotes/index.html
- I thank God for my handicaps for, through them, I have found myself, my
work, and my God.
... Helen Keller http://www.rainbowcrystal.com/news/gratitudequotes.html
- Give thanks for a little and you will find a lot.
... The Hausa of Nigeria http://www.beliefnet.com/Holistic-Living/2000/11/On-Gratitude.aspx
- Living in the moment brings you a sense of reverence for all of life's
... Oprah Winfrey http://quitsmoking.about.com/od/quitsmokingstories/a/gratitude.htm
- Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for
today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.
... Melody Beattie http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/keywords/gratitude.html
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